Leaves Of Time

While spring has the excitement and joy of the beginnings, autumn brings the anticipation of the gran finales. It’s a majestic season. Dramatic red hues, leaves falling off trees, days getting shorter and a cold and crispy wind starting to permeate the atmosphere. The seasonal shift is felt in no uncertain way. Autumn has always been the best season for me to reflect on my past experiences and the passing of time.  

In my youth, I didn’t care about time, I was only looking ahead and middle age was a distant future. My 20s were exciting but with an underlying anxiety to “make it” before 30 – that meant, in my day, settling down with a husband.  I “made it”, it didn’t last. I ticked boxes through my 30s until I reached breaking point at 38. In my willingness to make things happen I hadn’t realized that on most occasions I was just challenging myself unnecessarily and pursuing things that were incompatible with the life I wanted.  On my 40s, the penny dropped.  

Like puberty, middle age comes with some unsettling adjustments.  Losing my wrinkle free face and going up a few sizes as hard at first, but I made peace with that. It’s to do with attitude as well. Youth demands a lifestyle that I no longer have. The vibe of my 20’s when I could fit all my possessions in a suitcase, used phone boxes, smoked everywhere, social media didn’t exist (Thank God) and Axl Rose was fit, is gone. I’m not there anymore but other, better treasures emerged. 

There is immense power in being an adult in my prime. As adults, we are no longer amateurs in life. We say no with more authority. We can miss people and places without wanting them back. We are sharper, much harder to impress. These are amazing gifts. Our energy field changes as we evolve and there’s more to gain in embracing the new version of ourselves than denying the person we become the right to live an authentic life. 

40 was my turning point. I left the job at 38, graduated as a counsellor at 39 and at 40 my work with the Tarot took a life of its own. Since them I’ve seen amazing places, met super interesting people and had incredible experiences. The timing was perfect; I reached a space where I was ready to enjoy life rather than spoil things out with unnecessary dramas and self sabotage. I’m not alone on this. There are many uplifting stories of ordinary people like me and you deciding to do things they never dared before after reaching 40s. Relocating, embarking on a new profession, adopting a new lifestyle, rediscovering love and letting go of heavier burdens. At this stage we have reached some solid conclusions about who we are and how we want to live. It’s a powerful place to be. 

Autumn brings change and regeneration; by winter, only what’s meaningful will remain so that spring can start afresh on a renewed soil. The seasons are spices that Time sprinkled on to the Wheel Of Life to add different flavours to our existence. The flowers are beautiful but now they have to go so that we can receive the fruits that are indeed ripe. Nature always has new gifts for us.  All we need is an open heart to accept them. 

Season’s Greetings





Breakthrough in Birmingham – Women Economic Forum 2018

One of the best ways for me to get insight is to remove myself from familiar surroundings, break my routine and do something unusual and this time was no different. I just came back from Birmingham where a local Women Economic Forum was being held.

If you have been to a women’s forum you know what it entails but for those unfamiliar with the scene; a WEF event essentially, is a conference attended by women from all over the world who come to share personal stories, promote business, network or just to soak in the atmosphere and check on the program.  From discussions on women’s under representation in sports governance to learning more about the benefits of theta healing, there’s something for everyone. It’s great fun too as you can imagine, with many strong women from all walks of life bonding and discussing issues that they are passionate about.

The annual event in India where I received an award in 2017 was glitz and glamour in massive proportions. Held at a 5 star hotel in New Delhi with Bollywood stars and members of the government in attendance, saw more than 2.000 people attending daily over 5 days. It was my first time at this kind of event and the first time I had to make a speech to a (very) large audience. To say it was terrifying is an understatement but the friendly and appreciative environment made me realize that no one is there to see me fail.  New friendships started and Breakthrough, the book I’ve co-authored with 16 other ladies is a solid manifestation of our collaborative efforts.  It is fair to say that attending the WEF has made a positive contribution in my life. 

I was in Brazil when the book was released so I didn’t get a chance to catch up with my fellow co-authors in India this year. Birmingham would be ideal for us in the UK to meet up. Dr. Neslyn Watson-Druee very kindly allowed us a slot to talk about our book and we reciprocated by donating all the sale’s profits to the temple where the event was held.

A lovely gesture from the WEF to allow us a slot to talk about our book

If the annual event is a big party with all the girls, the conference in Birmingham was like visiting a friend at her house.  The WEF Birmingham was what they call a chapter; members can hold meetings in their own communities. These regional meetings are smaller in size and with shorter duration and have a more relaxed vibe. 

The best part of co-authoring Breakthrough – Secrets of Growth, Happiness and Bouncebacks From Women Around The World was being inspired by all the stories I read.

Shree Krishna Temple has the loveliest vibe. The sacred statues were truly alive, blessing our gathering and adding beauty to our event. The smaller crowd helped me to feel more connected with the other participants. I’ve made more new friends and learned from the incredible stories I heard. Although the WEF is women-led, men are welcome and it important that their presence is celebrated too.   

Krishna and Radha at Shree Birmingham Pragati Mandal – Birmingham

In my daily life I like to be a lone wolf but I answer the call when it’s time to regroup with my tribe. I plant the seeds of fulfillment by surrounding myself with supportive and like minded souls, reading insightful books, enjoying uplifting environments and learning from other people’s experiences.  Breakthrough, my very first experience as a co-author is an inspiring evidence that the fruits of those seeds can be lovely indeed. 

Breakthrough authors Pat Duckworth, Rachel Smets, Lynn Hope Thomas and I with our special guest Cora Cristobal in the middle.

To learn more about the WEF visit http://www.wef.org.in/

To purchase Breakthrough please visit https://read.amazon.co.uk/kp/embed?asin=B07BLXX9Q9&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_kmpmBb7D8DWE2